Flying Solo (and sitting at the table for one)

Last Friday, one of my co-workers asked what I was up to for the evening. I casually told her that I was going out for dinner at one of my favourite restaurants. She became quite excited and started to guess who this ‘gentleman’ taking me out was; I stared in disbelief while listening to her ramble on for at least 5 minutes solid. She continued to reflect on the two weeks past in which she noticed the change in my gait and suspected that something was going well for me. Bemused, I tried to explain to her that there was no ‘gentleman’ and I was merely taking myself out to sit down and eat in a quiet and comfortable environment. She refused to believe me.

I have recently come to realise that I do a lot of things most persons would consider to be ‘social’ activities all by myself. I have never, in fact, considered my indifference toward company to be anything other than perfectly normal and healthy, and I am not too eager to cling to a ‘gentleman’ either. Of course, I respect those who feel the need to group or pair off more often than they are alone; whatever works for you.

In my own company, I have experienced much of the beauty that comes with life – cinema, concerts, dining, theatre, new year’s parties, long walks, trips abroad, an awful cricket match and much more. I must admit that I’ve seen people paired off and desired to experience such a connection; actually this was only one time at a concert – Juan Luis Guerra was performing in the open air and it was cold. I wanted someone to hold, simply because it was cold.

At the end of the day there is only one me, whom I have come to depend on and embrace. I believe my acceptance of my own company is better than others’ endless pursuit of validation through relationships, which are not always beneficial or healthy. Perhaps in a few years or even days, I will find myself completely rapt with someone, desiring their presence wherever I am, but for now I will live as I please, holding to the conviction that my life is going as it should, and changes will come when they are necessary.

Peace and love,


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  1. Posted April 10, 2012 at 9:38 AM | Permalink

    I share the same sentiments. Too often our actions are conceived by the expectation of others. You are a strong individual for knowing who you are and not succumbing to the pressure of what is expected of you. Knowing that you don’t need a guy’s company to have fun or be happy.

    Unfortunately, most of our coworkers in this day and age will be like that. Trying to influence your life in the direction they see fit and not what coincides with you the individual.

    Thanks for sharing Karee and keep them coming……… I enjoyed it much…………………

  2. Posted April 10, 2012 at 9:47 PM | Permalink

    Perfectly normal and healthy behaviour. it would be great if more people actually enjoyed their own company. However, this behaviour is easier for psychological introverts whose energy comes from within.

  3. @SmittyRoyal
    Posted April 11, 2012 at 12:52 PM | Permalink

    Lovely blog post. We are so much alike where this is concerned. I enjoy the movies more when I am watching it alone, and solo flexes are more my style. However, I differ to some extent as I usual know half a party when I go out, so its harder for me to stay solo.

  4. Posted July 30, 2012 at 10:08 PM | Permalink

    Good post! While i’ve been doing alot of things and attending a few outings on my own, there are times I really miss the company, someone i’d share a “did you see that??” moment with, or talk about this food, etc. I came close to having the company (yeah, relationship) a couple months ago but that failed so i’m talking to myself (in my head lol) and enjoying “flying solo”. It’s not always great though….
    This was a good read.

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